Not all of us wants to be our parents.
But most people strive to be better (or what they think is better).
The society places a certain standard for parents worldwide to make sure that children are raised as perfectly as possible.
But there is no perfect way to raise children,
just as much as there is no perfect parents.
I have no experience as a parent. Even being the eldest child isn't close to parenting.
But I made an effort to put together plenty of people's experiences as both children and parents and analyse how I think about it.
Parents make mistakes. Human makes mistakes. Parents are human.
And this is a concept often failed to be accepted by most people worldwide.
Most parents who have made mistakes in the past are often haunted with the thoughts that their children would compare their deeds to their past.
And most children actually do that.
What parents need to understand is: most children aspire to be their parents.
What children need to understand is: most parents aspire their children to do better than they did.
Hence, here is where the conflict comes in.
As children, you are expected to take the elders' advices.
As parents, you are expected to listen to what your children want/need.
Yet those expectations are sort of perplexing, aren't they? Quite a dilemma for both sides from how I see it.
As children, you want to be allowed to choose your own path and learn from your own mistakes
YET you also want to obey to your parents and listen to the guidances they could offer.
As parents, you want to give advice your children and avoid them from repeating your mistakes
YET you also want to allow them to choose their own paths and learn from their own mistakes.
So does it work really? Surely these conflicts are easily solved for authoritative parents and tolerable children.
But how does it work in a family institution led by authoritarian or permissive parents?
Could the parents listen and allow their children to have a say AND the children listen and allow their parents to offer advice?
Huh.
But most of us turns out to be somehow like our parents.
But most of us turns out to be somehow like our parents.
